How the life of a young woman changed

It was sent to us by a non-governmental organization from Zugdidi. After being physically abused and experiencing fear of death, she called the police and decided to return to her mother in Kutaisi.

35 years old.

Childhood was not easy, dad often came drunk, there were permanent quarrels and scandals... Once day, when returning home drunk, he was hit by a car. She was in the 8 - th grade. At the age of 18, her mother married her by matchmaking in one of the villages of Samegrelo. He was 10 years older.

The first two months of marriage were happy. His parents left (they lived and worked in Russia), They stayed alone, and she thought that it would be even better, but ... jealousy, control, criticism began: “you do not do it well”, “don’t dress like this” , “Why are you going to the neighbors”, “you have a lot of things to do, stay home”, “who brought you by taxi”, “who are you waiting for”...

She told her mother-in-law about everything. She promised that she would talk to her son and he would change. The parents sent money, helped. She gave birth to a boy, I thought everything would be settled, but it got worse - he was more angry, jealous, and beat. She hid with her neighbors when her husband came drunk. She left for my mother, but then her husband's relatives intervened and returned.

After another physical abuse, I called the police ... She told everything to her mother-in-law. She promised that she would talk to her son and he would change. They sent money, helped. Then she gave birth to a boy, she thought everything would be fine, but it got worse - more aggression, jealousness, control. She often ran away with her child to the neighbors to hide herself and her child. She left for her mother, but husband's relatives intervened and returned her back.

After another physical abuse, she called the police.

 

Manana Gotsiridze, a psychologist of the Fund “Sukhumi” says:

“She was thin, bent, frightened-looking, without front teeth, with low self-esteem. She said that it was her faith. Her mother endured drunkenness and beating from her father, she pitied her, now she pitied her husband for leaving him alone in a huge household. She left him with her son, but then he lured the boy to buy a phone, a moped, etc. She does not want her son to be left without an inheritance, to live without a father. She remembers how hard it was for her and her mom without dad. She never thought that she would find herself in a similar situation.

We went through 8 months of psycho-rehabilitation, sessions of art therapy, cognitive-behavioral therapy, worked with associative cards, with negative emotions, with childhood traumas, with fears, and tried to raise self-esteem.

We went through 8 months of psycho-rehabilitation, sessions of art therapy, cognitive-behavioral therapy, work with associative cards - we worked with negative emotions, with childhood traumas, with fears, and with increasing of self-esteem.

Our organization helped her to strengthen, assigned her to stylist courses, paid for her studies. Today she works, communicates with new friends, helps her mother...

She consulted with our lawyer, who helped prepare all the documents for the court, and recommended a lawyer.

After the divorce, she was grateful that we returned her female dignity, calmness, self-confidence, peace of mind...

The project is implemented with the support of the organization Brot

 für die Welt - Evangelischer Entwicklungsdienst (Germany)

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